Texting has become the main form of communication in today’s society. People of all ages use it- teenagers, young adults, adults, and older adults. It is a very common method of exchange.
However, as with every other medium of communication, there are some pitfalls that you need to watch out for. One of these is how easy it is to overtext someone.
If you have a lot to say then you can very easily pour your whole heart out in a long string of messages. Unfortunately, this can come off as desperate or too serious.
It can also be quite intimidating for the other person to have to read all that information. If they are not ready for that much information, then it could make them feel pushed away. Or, perhaps they just do not have that much to say back and that makes them feel less significant.
This article will help you learn how to stop texting a girl so soon and give her enough time to respond.
Stop responding immediately
If you wait a while before responding to a girl’s text, it looks like you’re not that into her. And if you don’t respond at all, she may think you’re being rude.
That’s why it’s important to time your response. When you get a girl’s number, send her a quick text and wait a few minutes before responding.
If she texts you first, answer her right away so that she knows you received the message. If you wait too long to respond, she may get nervous or think something happened to you.
You can also wait a little while before responding to a message so that it does not look like you respond right away every time. This will make you seem more casual and cool which is what most girls want in a guy.
Another tip for stopping texting is to ask questions back so that she responds and then you do not have to text her again.
Message her less
If you have a lot of problems stopping texting a girl, then try to message her less. This can be challenging because it can be easy to overdo it with messages.
Girls love when guys are confident enough to let them go and do their own thing. This is why letting her go off on her own or with her friends is a good thing.
You will seem less needy and clingy if you do not constantly check your phone for messages from her. She will probably still send you messages, but she will not get a response from you.
This lets her know that you are not too worried about what she is doing and that you trust her. You are already showing her this by letting her go off on her own, so let her know that you trust her by not constantly texting or calling her.
Letting her know that you trust her will make her more likely to trust you in return.
Make an excuse to stop messaging her
If you have been talking to a girl for a while, then it is okay to have some longer conversations. These can be about anything- what’s going on in your life, what’s going on in her life, things you like, things you don’t like.
If you have been texting for a while, then it is time to come up with an excuse to stop texting. You can say that you are going to meet some friends or family or that you are going to work or school.
If it is late at night, then you can just say goodnight and leave it at that. It is not too rude and it is time for you to get some sleep anyway.
If it is early in the morning, then tell her goodbye and that you will see her later. You could also tell her that you are going to do something later so you will text her then.
Tell her you are busy
If you are in a situation where you need to stop texting her, then tell her that you are busy. Say that you will text her later when you have time to chat.
This lets her know that she is not the only priority in your life. It also gives her a time frame when you will chat again, which is a positive thing.
If she sends you a long message, then tell her that you will read it later and send her a short reply. This way she knows that you at least heard what she said and are not ignoring her.
It is hard to ignore someone when they have the ability to text you back!
If she asks why you are not responding, then tell her that you are busy and let her know when she can expect a response from you. Breaking it down like that makes it more clear for her.
Be honest with her
If you have been texting a girl for some time, and you are feeling some kind of way about her, be honest about it. Tell her how you feel about her in a direct and friendly way.
Tell her how she makes you feel and what makes you feel that way. Tell her what kind of relationship you want with her based on your feelings for her.
If there is a situation where you need to cut off contact with her, do so in a direct way. Let her know that you respect her and want the best for her, even if that means not being in your life.
If there is something going on in your life that is making you uncomfortable, deal with it before it becomes too big of an issue. Be honest with yourself and others around you to cut out unnecessary drama.
Tell her you like her
If you have been seeing a girl for a while, and you are pretty sure she likes you back, it is time to take the next step. Tell her you like her!
If you have been talking to her for a while, you should know how she feels about relationships. If she has made it clear she is not looking for a relationship, then try the next tip.
If she has said several times that she likes you and there seems to be some mutual feelings, then it is time to tell her that you like her too. Do it in person if possible so that she knows how serious you are.
If she does not feel the same way, then at least you know and can move on. You will be much happier in the long run than if you stayed in the dark and kept trying to get her.
Ask her out
If you have tried everything and are sure that she is not interested, then it’s time to ask her out. Ask her to go out for a drink or a snack, or for a walk or dance.
Don’t make it a group outing- this will just make it more awkward if she says no. Make it a one on one situation where she has plenty of opportunity to say yes.
If you’re not feeling the romantic vibe, try going out with her as friends. You can ask her to join you at an event or activity you’re looking forward to, and invite her to chat with you while you’re doing it.
Maybe she isn’t ready for a romantic relationship, but might be open to being friends. Getting together at events and talking can help develop that friendship.
Tell her you want to be alone with her
If you’re in a situation with a girl where you’re talking and laughing together, you’re in a good place to stop texting other people.
If you’re with her alone, even better! Tell her you want to be alone with her and put your phone away.
It may feel awkward at first, but keep doing it until it feels natural. You will feel more comfortable around her and she will feel more comfortable with you.
If she has her phone out, suggest that she puts it away so she can enjoy your company and the event/activity/whatever you’re doing together.
This reminds me of when I was in high school and I would get so mad at my girlfriend because she would always be on her phone when we were together.